So it’s all Official. I have a bf. First time in um… 4 years?! I will mention that those 4 years were for the most part by choice! Anyways, I hate that whole "will you go out with me?" "omg, wow, yes! I’d love to" *insert lots of gushing here* things. So it was more like this:
Him: So are we or aren’t we?
Me: I hate these conversations
Him: Me too, but are we or aren’t we?
Me: Sure, why not?
Him: Ok. So how’s your coffee?
Me: Average (ever the connoisseur of such things 
)
Him: Shall we go?
Me: Ok
All very romantic, not! Ok…. so there *may* have been a hug and a kiss in there somewhere… but you get the idea! low key, just the way I like it, meant to be tehehe
Anyways, it’s been about 3 months…. we kept it very quiet cos of mutual friends etc being involved, but everyone knows now. Including my parents. I told them last night, cos I said I was going away for the weekend and they asked who with. I’m sure they were impressed to know he works in IT, has an Honours degree and lives in a very nice apartment in town. Last bf was a wanker, one before that was unemployed, homeless, uneducated and I supported his drug habit for the whole time we were together. Live and learn. Anyways, BF is very nice and normal, which makes a change! There are some issues that need working through. Mostly me, I have some stress/anger issues at the moment (who wouldn’t when you don’t like your job and have an entire years study to do in less than 3 months!!). It’s kinda hard cos all he has to do is work 40 hours a week. He’s on call all the time, so sometimes he works in the weekend, but still only works 40 hours, means he can slack off a bit during the week, knowing he’ll probably get a call during the weekend. Outside of that he can do ANYTHING he wants. Including play W.orld of W.arcraft every night. Which he wants to do with me. But I can’t, not EVERY night!! So that’s kinda hard, trying to get the time to myself to study. But it’s going well overall, I’m very happy. So much so that sometimes those three little words are on the tip of my tongue! But I don’t want to do down that road just yet. Me and the ex’s did it and I didn’t mean it at all. I thought I did at the time, but it was more of a pity thing I think. I want people to be as ambitious as me and want things in life. So I think I can help them. But I can’t, so this time I found someone who’s already there with me.
I have a funny story about us actually…. I can’t remember if I blogged on this already, but our mutual friend tried to set us up when I first arrived in the city. We went on a date, but I so wasn’t into it. He was young, which I was avoiding after the wanker ex, he’d just finished uni, wasn’t doing enough to look for a job (in my opinion at the time, now I know it really does take 3-4 months to find something!), and I just wasn’t attracted at all. My friend was all ‘just f*** him anyways’… cos that’s a good place to start a relationship :S Anyways, we kept in touch over the past year or so, met up for coffee, or went to movies or whatever. But mostly he was kind annoying. But I realised a while back that he’s grown up a lot in the past year and is doing really well for himself. He’s lost lots of weight too (and yes, I will admit it does count. I’m just not attracted to fat people! Despite the fact I’m off the charts myself…. hypocritical I know), and was looking really good, he’d ditched the Amish beard for something a little more contemporary and had a haircut. So yea, we ended up dating and stuff and now here we are today! Since we started going out he stopped smoking too, so more bonus points. It didn’t bother me that much, but it would have over time, so it’s good he did it on his own without me having to issue ultimatums. He even just stopped one day, didn’t mention anything about it in advance, just stopped and hasn’t since!
Anyway… more on that in Part 3: living arrangements
Flatmates have sold up and are moving cities, which sucks, cos it’s been such an awesome place to live!! But it’s time to move on, for them, and me too I guess. I found some new flatmates, but they are stuck in hostels till November, so I gotta wait for them before we can look for a house to move into. BF (his name starts with I, so I can’t use his initial, too confusing!) kindly offered to put me up for a week or two. That’s now 2 months. The settlement date on the house got pulled forward. So.. living together after only 4 months of being together? Should be interesting! :S Last two bf’s I pretty much lived with from day one, so this is like a record for me haha. But I was envisioning maybe like a year or two down the track with this one…. It kinda works out well, one of his roommates is moving out, so I can rent the room and store my stuff in it. A pain to have to move twice too. It will be a good trial anyways, can see how it works out for 2 months! Then we’ll both be tied into flats for about a year, if we’re still together then, that’s about the time I would imagine we might look for our own place togther.