To be or not to be….
Part rhetorical, part looking for input:
Should you live with someone if you don’t love them? Do you maintain optimism and hope/assume you will one day soon? How do you manage the ‘risk’ that that might not happen?
Also, how do you keep your blog a secret if you do live with them!! :S
I could live with someone if I don’t love them if they were a ROOMMATE!! Umm… and I think if you were to love someone, you would know by now. There are things that make me care more deeply for R, but falling in love over time… hmmm… personally it wouldn’t work for me. I’m too fickle. Good luck darling.
I do love him… I just don’t want to admit it, to either him or myself!! I don’t want it to end up being something that is way overdone, having to say it 600 times a day and reassure him I still do, same as five minutes ago. Even though it wouldn’t be like that, that was just how it was with the ex…
Comment by mary — September 11, 2007 @ 8:02 am
I’ve done the living with someone and hoping I would at some point love them. It never happened. When you live together, rather than finding more to appreciate, you usually find more things that drive you up the wall. It’s a HUGE commitment to move in together, so be prepared for what’s to come after if that’s what you decide.
Well too late, cos we are living together
temporarily though! I’m in between flats, and want to move in with some friends whose contract at their current place finishes in November. I was living with both ex’s from day one, and told them I loved them and didn’t mean it, so I’m wary of heading down that road again…. a little too wary now though! It’s just everyone thinkgs we’ll stay living together, but I am really keen for a bit more time with my friends before living together, I’d also want my own place, just the two of us, whereas here there are flatmates.
Comment by Kari — September 12, 2007 @ 10:45 am