Comments on: The perfect text message http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/ Just another WordPress weblog Sat, 04 Oct 2008 00:45:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: nina http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-171 Mon, 14 Apr 2008 05:23:24 +0100 http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-171 Landed here from toni's blog. Anyways, I have to agree with all previous comments. I think he is not interested. Been in the same boat when I was still single but I guess you are stronger than I do. There is this guy introduced to me. He's the type that every girl would go gaga about. He got my number, told me he'll call/text and maybe we should go out sometime. He never called, so I rang him...to cut it short, he dated me once. Then, no calls, no text. I text or call from time to time until he told me he doesn't have plans of getting married. I got it, he's not interested but for a time, I can't get over him. I said, no harm, I just wanted to text him anyways I am single and unattached. It took sometime but the feelings eventually went away. From my experience, when a guy likes/loves you, he'll do everything to keep the communications open. Just take it easy, before you know it, your feelings are already gone! <em>Thanks Nina! Great advice, sounds like you've got a man now, so that's awesome. I never really get jealous of girls with great guys like some girls can, instead it gives me hope for a happy ending :-)</em> Landed here from toni’s blog. Anyways, I have to agree with all previous comments. I think he is not interested. Been in the same boat when I was still single but I guess you are stronger than I do. There is this guy introduced to me. He’s the type that every girl would go gaga about. He got my number, told me he’ll call/text and maybe we should go out sometime. He never called, so I rang him…to cut it short, he dated me once. Then, no calls, no text. I text or call from time to time until he told me he doesn’t have plans of getting married. I got it, he’s not interested but for a time, I can’t get over him. I said, no harm, I just wanted to text him anyways I am single and unattached. It took sometime but the feelings eventually went away. From my experience, when a guy likes/loves you, he’ll do everything to keep the communications open.

Just take it easy, before you know it, your feelings are already gone!

Thanks Nina! Great advice, sounds like you’ve got a man now, so that’s awesome. I never really get jealous of girls with great guys like some girls can, instead it gives me hope for a happy ending :-)

]]> by: sushi http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-170 Sun, 13 Apr 2008 18:13:26 +0100 http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-170 imma have to agree with the previous comments. life's too short to be pining over someone who isn't as interested. on a more positive note, i loved that text message you sent. ballsy if i may say so. you're smart and strong. you won't have trouble finding that one person for you sweetie :D <em>Thanks! It took a bit of courage, and when I didn't get the reply for a few hours, I was getting nervous, but I'm glad I did. I put it out there as a genuine compliment, which is how he took it, but I think I also succeeded in letting him know that I'm here, I'm interested, and it's up to him. Nothing is likely to come of it, but at least I did something, it would be worse to pine after someone who didn't even know you were interested because you never let them know</em> imma have to agree with the previous comments. life’s too short to be pining over someone who isn’t as interested.

on a more positive note, i loved that text message you sent. ballsy if i may say so. you’re smart and strong. you won’t have trouble finding that one person for you sweetie :D

Thanks! It took a bit of courage, and when I didn’t get the reply for a few hours, I was getting nervous, but I’m glad I did. I put it out there as a genuine compliment, which is how he took it, but I think I also succeeded in letting him know that I’m here, I’m interested, and it’s up to him. Nothing is likely to come of it, but at least I did something, it would be worse to pine after someone who didn’t even know you were interested because you never let them know

]]> by: Jo http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-169 Sat, 12 Apr 2008 23:50:26 +0100 http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-169 Looks like Kari &amp; Michele hit the nail in the nose. DO NOTHING. If he asks you out again cool if not oh well his loss! Go for what you want not what you can get! <em>You're all wonderful! Exactly what I need to hear, I love my BFF, but if I even mention a guys name, she's got my wedding planned and wants to know when the first baby is due!! She's a dreamer, like me, and speaks from the heart, but sometimes you need to hear the cold hard truth from someone else's more sensible head, even though you may already know it in your own.</em> Looks like Kari & Michele hit the nail in the nose. DO NOTHING. If he asks you out again cool if not oh well his loss! Go for what you want not what you can get!

You’re all wonderful! Exactly what I need to hear, I love my BFF, but if I even mention a guys name, she’s got my wedding planned and wants to know when the first baby is due!! She’s a dreamer, like me, and speaks from the heart, but sometimes you need to hear the cold hard truth from someone else’s more sensible head, even though you may already know it in your own.

]]> by: Michele http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-167 Tue, 08 Apr 2008 00:58:54 +0100 http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-167 I'm with Kari. I know you want him, lust him, but what you want doesn't match up with what he gives you. You want to be romanced, lusted and chased and he's just not the man for you. Girl I would have not given him a third chance because his signals where saying, "I'm just not that into you." (read this book by that name btw) As much as that stings, getting all caught up in a relationship where you love him deeply and he keeps hurting and not being there for you is worse. What should you do. Noting. If he is into you, he'll call, text, come by something. Your part is done. Even if he just wants to be friends, the balls in his court. Sorry I'm the old woman whose been around the block a time or twenty and I hate to see people getting hurt. <em>Thanks for dropping by, it's good have this support! I've already been through the hurt thing with him, I'm only setting myself up for a second round. I'm starting to feel happier now though, I sent the message, it was there, he can follow it up, or not, but at least I didn't sit here idly waiting for something to happen when he might not have even known I was still into him. I can move on knowing I gave it my best shot, but it's just not meant to be</em> I’m with Kari. I know you want him, lust him, but what you want doesn’t match up with what he gives you. You want to be romanced, lusted and chased and he’s just not the man for you.

Girl I would have not given him a third chance because his signals where saying, “I’m just not that into you.” (read this book by that name btw)

As much as that stings, getting all caught up in a relationship where you love him deeply and he keeps hurting and not being there for you is worse.

What should you do. Noting. If he is into you, he’ll call, text, come by something. Your part is done. Even if he just wants to be friends, the balls in his court.

Sorry I’m the old woman whose been around the block a time or twenty and I hate to see people getting hurt.

Thanks for dropping by, it’s good have this support! I’ve already been through the hurt thing with him, I’m only setting myself up for a second round. I’m starting to feel happier now though, I sent the message, it was there, he can follow it up, or not, but at least I didn’t sit here idly waiting for something to happen when he might not have even known I was still into him. I can move on knowing I gave it my best shot, but it’s just not meant to be

]]> by: Kari http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-166 Mon, 07 Apr 2008 23:35:27 +0100 http://inblognito.blogsome.com/2008/04/07/the-perfect-text-message/#comment-166 It's a difficult situation. I don't think he sounds horribly reliable. And all that brushing off....not cool. I think you deserve better, but that's just me :-) <em>Thanks Kari, we all deserve someone who appreciates us for us, and doesn't muck us around, I just set my sights on the wrong person. I feel better now, I feel in a position to move on, I sent the text, I've blogged about it, I think I've accepted that it just isn't meant to be. I need to take care of myself first and foremost right now, I need to leave well enough alone for a while, someone else will come along soon enough :-)</em> It’s a difficult situation. I don’t think he sounds horribly reliable. And all that brushing off….not cool. I think you deserve better, but that’s just me :-)

Thanks Kari, we all deserve someone who appreciates us for us, and doesn’t muck us around, I just set my sights on the wrong person. I feel better now, I feel in a position to move on, I sent the text, I’ve blogged about it, I think I’ve accepted that it just isn’t meant to be. I need to take care of myself first and foremost right now, I need to leave well enough alone for a while, someone else will come along soon enough :-)

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