Now what?
It turns out I didn’t think my plan through very well. Now I’ve got his interest, what do I do?! I don’t know what he expects… it was so hard to get him to come to the party, and now he’s here, I don’t know what the next move is supposed to be! He’s been sooo lovely, was really caring and concerned last weekend, text me both on the day of my surgery and two days later to check in on how I was feeling, and now I feel like I’m the one holding back, not because I want to hold back, but because I don’t know what direction to take! What do I do now?!!? I feel like I should send a text to him, ask him how things are going and if he’s had a good week. But that kinda seems like I’m fishing for a) him to ask me over again, or b) personal info in a relationship kind of way.
And I can’t really invite him over here, it’s a little difficult with the flatmates… And realistically, it can only be either a friends thing or a casual thing. There is no relationship potential, we want different things in the long term… I need one of those pick-a-path books so I at least have some different paths to choose from.
UPDATE: I sent a ‘hey how’s your weekend going’ text and he said we should catch up next weekend, so it’s all good for another week or two! Hopefully next weekend I’ll be all fixed up again, little bit of pain and discomfort at the moment, but still intending to go back to work tomorrow, might just do a couple of half days if I get too tired.
Maybe you can mention how crazy your flatmates are driving you and that you need to get out of the house. A true gentleman wouldn’t let you go about by yourself while you’re still healing
I felt the window closing very quickly, so I sent a text and got a reply, it’s all good now! He was busy with friends, but said we should catch up next weekend. And I’m fairly certain he’ll follow through now. This whole ‘casual’ thing is a lot harder than I remember it being!
Comment by Kari — May 10, 2008 @ 11:50 pm