Absolute Asshats #3
Ok, now this is just weird. Today we got a dryer delivered for winter and I went down to the laundry to check it had been delivered as arranged. Up till this morning a pile of washing has been sitting there on the floor for a few days cos I had like 4 other loads before that and am waiting for each one to dry in my room with the heater on before washing another one (took two days to try one load of sheets!). However, when checking on the dryer this afternoon, I found the load of washing had been done and hung on the drying rack. The weird part? Mostly Cool Flatmate (did I mention the cookie incident already? Don’t even get me started if I haven’t…) was at work all day. So it must have been super pain in the ass, absolute asshat flatmate. She can’t clean the f***ing bathroom just once but she does someone elses washing? That is just…. WEIRD. I feel violated. I don’t want someone else doing my washing.
Now I have to take the dilemma even further: is it wrong to be pissed off that someone tried to be nice and did my washing? Cos I totally am. It was just a duvet cover and some tea towels and dishclothes. But there are several problems here:
- That duvet cover was very expensive and I really don’t want it washed with dirty, germy dishclothes.
- I doubt she used the Canesten hygiene wash in the load, which I have bought specifically for loads of bathmats and dishclothes etc. Seeing as we wash in cold water, I want something to help rid the washing of nasty bugs.
- The washing smells kinda bad, which means a) my theory in point 2 is confirmed and b) she didn’t use any fabric softener, which I would have used when I washed my nice expensive duvet cover separately.
- IT’S JUST PLAIN WEIRD!!!
She also hung it up downstairs in our separate mouldy laundry where nothing ever dries, hence the reason I was waiting for the current load in my room to dry.
So she tries to do something nice, but it’s just so weird, and she did it so totally wrong, that I just cannot be grateful. In fact all I can muster up is incredibly pissed off because she fucked it up and now I have to fix it by doing the washing again, separately, and with the right additives in each load (the Canesten will now be going in with the duvet cover too! I’m not sleeping with dishcloth germs, ew!). And at a time that means I can hang it out and have it dry in less than a week. Now I would have had to do all this anyways, as per my original plan, but I’m still pissed off that someone messed with my system and my washing. Argh!
I would be irritated. People do “nice” things for me all the time and it irritates me. If you want something done right, do it yourself is my motto!
That said, R did a great job on my laundry yesterday but he knows me well and knows how to not mess it up. That’s so strange she did it for you. Can’t figure it out.
That’s my motto too! It *might* have been nice flatmate, which would be less weird, but still irritating… but I’m pretty sure she didn’t have time to wash and hang out my washing this morning, so I can only conclude it was the absolute asshat.
I saw the pics of your laundry, well done R! Once you train ‘em up right, it’s all good
teheh
Comment by mary — May 20, 2008 @ 3:49 pm
I can understand being irritated when something isn’t done properly. On the other hand, this is a HUGE step for one of your flatmates. I think if you are going to say anything about it being done improperly, follow up with saying something positive about their intentions. After all, an asshat is an asshat, but we wouldn’t want to discourage them completely from doing things like this in the future, like say clean the bathroom
I know, I do feel like I can’t really complain, she was just trying to do something nice… but my laundry? I’m a little creeped out by it to be honest, and I would much rather she did something normal, like her share of the basic cleaning. She’s being such a pain in the ass in general that I’m totally ready to kick her out. Mostly cool flatmate goes away for three weeks soon, I don’t think AA will still be here when she gets back! I’ll be giving her a last warning/ultimatum, and she’ll have two weeks to figure out what she’s going to do, if there’s not enough improvement in that time, I’ll be making the decision for her!
Comment by Kari — May 21, 2008 @ 1:17 am
I’m with you. I don’t like people touching my laundry. It just seems to personal, no matter what they’re washing. Plus, I like it done a certain way just like you.
It is too personal, I’m a little creeped out… but it’s hard, cos I really don’t feel like I can complain when she was trying to do something nice!
Comment by Friglet — May 21, 2008 @ 4:30 am
See this is why I could never have a roommate!
Comment by Vee — May 23, 2008 @ 6:38 am